Child Custody Factors: Relationship with Both Parents Gains in Importance

Underscoring the subjectivity and complexity of the concept, judicial proclamations have made clear that the “only absolute in the law governing custody of children is that there are no absolutes” Friederwitzer v. Friederwitzer, 55 N.Y.2d 89, 432 N.E.2d 765 (1982), and that the court must base its determination on the totality of the circumstances. As often stated by the Court of Appeals, the decisional law eschews absolutes in favor of elucidating “policies designed not to bind the courts but to guide them in determining what is in the best interests of the child.” Eschbach v. Eschbach, 56 N.Y.2d 167, 171, 451 N.Y.S.2d 658, 436 N.E.2d 1260 (1982). These decisions leave the litigation landscape immersed in a thick fog of subjectivity and the lawyers and judges who traverse it in constant search for points of clarity. As an example, a review of recent New York decisions offers slight elucidation.